Rebuild Trust and Love
Few things are as devastating as discovering an affair.
It shatters trust, leaving you questioning everything—your partner, your past, and your future together.
It may feel like all hope is lost, but with the right guidance, your relationship can not only heal but thrive again.
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No cost and no commitment required.
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We can often accommodate emergency services and see you within 24 hours!
About Me
Kathleen Wenger,
M.A., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Certifications and Experience
- 20+ Years in Private Practice specializing in marriage and family therapy
- Clinical Training Manager at Pepperdine University, mentoring the next generation of therapists
- Co-Founder of MarriageFriendlyTherapists.com
- Multiple certifications in family mediation, adoption, and critical incident stress debriefing
Compassionate Support from an Experienced Marriage Counselor
Rebuilding relationships is my passion. For over two decades, I’ve worked with couples, individuals, and families to navigate life’s most challenging moments.
A key focus of my work is helping couples recover from the pain of infidelity, rediscover trust, and rebuild a connection rooted in love, respect, and understanding.
I understand that every relationship is unique. My approach is compassionate and tailored to your specific needs, offering tools and strategies that empower couples to move forward with clarity and confidence.
Beyond couples counseling, I also specialize in supporting individuals facing anxiety, depression, adoption-related challenges, and strengthening mother-daughter relationships.
How Infidelity Counseling Can Help
An affair can leave both partners feeling lost, betrayed, and unsure of how to move forward. Infidelity counseling offers a safe and supportive space to unpack the pain, understand the underlying issues, and begin the journey toward healing.
Here’s how counseling can help:
- Rebuild Trust: Learn tools to rebuild trust and restore emotional and physical connection.
- Navigate Difficult Conversations: Address the affair openly and honestly in a guided, nonjudgmental environment.
- Understand the Context: Explore the deeper reasons behind the betrayal and gain clarity about what went wrong.
- Strengthen Your Partnership: Go beyond healing to develop a stronger, more resilient relationship than ever before.
Can Your Relationship Survive?
Research shows that up to 75% of marriages survive an affair, and many couples even come out stronger. With the right guidance, you don’t have to face this alone. Let’s work together to create a path toward a brighter, healthier future for your relationship.
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Book a Free 20 Minute "Get to Know Us" Call
Easy Scheduling
Choose the time that best works for you and I'll call you at that time. Simple as that!
Free 20-Minute Call
This call allows us to get to know each other.
No cost and no commitment required.
Be Seen within 24 hours
We can often accommodate emergency services and see you within 24 hours!
Frequently Ask Questions
What if my partner doesn’t want to attend counseling?
It’s common for one partner to feel hesitant about starting counseling, especially after an affair. The good news is that both partners don’t need to attend the first session—or even counseling in general—for it to be effective.
In the free 30-minute consultation, I can meet with just you to discuss your concerns, explore your relationship’s dynamics, and create a plan for moving forward. Many times, when one partner starts the healing process, it inspires the other to join in later.
Remember, taking the first step on your own can still lead to meaningful change for your relationship. This journey begins with you, and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.
Do you offer Tele-Therapy?
Yes, I offer tele-therapy sessions for couples located in California. This allows us to meet from the comfort of your home while still providing the same compassionate, faith-centered support.
Do I really need therapy? I can usually handle my problems.
Everyone goes through challenging situations in life, and while you may have successfully navigated through other difficulties you've faced, there's nothing wrong with seeking out extra support when you need it. In fact, therapy is for people who have enough self-awareness to realize they need a helping hand, and that is something to be admired. You are taking responsibility by accepting where you're at in life and making a commitment to change the situation by seeking therapy. Therapy provides long-lasting benefits and support, giving you the tools you need to avoid triggers, re-direct damaging patterns, and overcome whatever challenges you face.
What is therapy like?
Because each person has different issues and goals for therapy, therapy will be different depending on the individual. In general, you can expect to discuss the current events happening in your life, your personal history relevant to your issue, and report progress (or any new insights gained) from the previous therapy session. Depending on your specific needs, therapy can be short-term, for a specific issue, or longer-term, to deal with more difficult patterns or your desire for more personal development. Either way, it is most common to schedule regular sessions with your therapist (usually weekly).
It is important to understand that you will get more results from therapy if you actively participate in the process. The ultimate purpose of therapy is to help you bring what you learn in session back into your life. Therefore, beyond the work you do in therapy sessions, your therapist may suggest some things you can do outside of therapy to support your process - such as reading a pertinent book, journaling on specific topics, noting particular behaviors or taking action on your goals. People seeking psychotherapy are ready to make positive changes in their lives, are open to new perspectives and take responsibility for their lives.
Do you take insurance, and how does that work?
To determine if you have mental health coverage through your insurance carrier, the first thing you should do is call them. Check your coverage carefully and make sure you understand their answers. Some helpful questions you can ask them:
- What are my mental health benefits?
- What is the coverage amount per therapy session?
- How many therapy sessions does my plan cover?
- How much does my insurance pay for an out-of-network provider?
- Is approval required from my primary care physician?
Does what we talk about in therapy remain confidential?
Confidentiality is one of the most important components between a client and psychotherapist. Successful therapy requires a high degree of trust with highly sensitive subject matter that is usually not discussed anywhere but the therapist's office. Every therapist should provide a written copy of their confidential disclosure agreement, and you can expect that what you discuss in session will not be shared with anyone. This is called “Informed Consent”. Sometimes, however, you may want your therapist to share information or give an update to someone on your healthcare team (you’re your Physician, Naturopath, Attorney), but by law your therapist cannot release this information without obtaining your written permission.
However, state law and professional ethics require therapists to maintain confidentiality except for the following situations:
- Suspected past or present abuse or neglect of children, adults, and elders to the authorities, including Child Protection and law enforcement, based on information provided by the client or collateral sources.
- If the therapist has reason to suspect the client is seriously in danger of harming him/herself or has threatened to harm another person.
I am in need of counseling ASAP. How quickly can I be seen?
We understand that sometimes, the need for counseling can feel urgent. At Orange County Couples Counseling, we prioritize your emotional well-being and mental health. We strive to accommodate emergency counseling services as quickly as possible, and you can generally expect to be seen within 24 hours. Our team of highly trained and compassionate counselors is dedicated to providing the care you need in a timely manner. Please note that the actual scheduling may depend on individual counselor availability. Rest assured, we will do our best to provide you the support you need exactly when you need it. If you're facing an immediate crisis, please don't hesitate to reach out to us or use the resources available to you, such as hotlines or local emergency services. Your safety and mental health are our top priority.